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Crafting Sacred Space: Making Room for Masculine Self-Discovery & Wellness

May 31, 2024 09:00AM ● By Deb Beroset
In the realm of self-care and spiritual exploration, the notion of sacred space often conjures images of serene retreats seemingly tailored for the feminine soul. However, men, too, thrive when they have a consciously crafted place to just be. Creating a personal sacred space at home can serve as a powerful way to nurture overall wellness. Think of it as an energetic sanctuary, a fortified oasis where you can regularly retreat from the overwhelming noise of the outer world and reconnect with yourself.

Sacred space is simply a space you create that makes you feel connected, safe and calm. And it’s an often-overlooked form of self-care.

This is, of course, an idea rooted in ancient cultures and traditions, often playing a vital role in rites of passage and wellness practices for men. From the kiva chambers of Puebloan tribes to the contemplative zendos of Buddhist monasteries, these hallowed sanctuaries offered pathways for men to journey inward, fortifying their integrity, purpose and sense of wholeness when the external world became too loud.

By creating your own sacred space at home, you aren’t just building a fancy meditation corner. It is a practical and scientifically validated way to nurture holistic well-being from the inside out.
The first step is to choose a physical location. Sacred space can be created anywhere—a corner of your home, a secluded spot outdoors or even a designated room or altar. Choose a location that resonates with you and feels conducive to introspection and reflection. Consider factors such as privacy and comfort when selecting your sacred space.

Clear your space energetically. You may ritually purify the area you’ve chosen for your sanctuary. Many find that smudging with sacred herbs like white sage or palo santo provides a powerful energy-cleansing ritual. As the fragrant smoke swirls, visualize it sweeping away any stagnant or dense vibes, creating a purified atmosphere for revitalizing energies and intentions.

Remove any clutter.  This is not the place for random things to be tossed. Allow only objects and design elements that serve a purposeful function or elevate your spirit to remain. This space should distill down to what nurtures and supports your peace of mind, growth and well-being.
Personalize your sanctuary. Now comes the part where you find inspiration in what you love and infuse your unique personality into this ritual container. Incorporate artwork, symbols or imagery that evoke a sense of calm and peace and speak to your soul. What looks, feels and smells good to you? Choose objects and art that give you energy and inspire you, perhaps including books, spiritual figurines, incense, meaningful photographs or even special totems or memorabilia from your childhood. It’s all about what is meaningful and evocative for you.

Incorporate both comfort and wildness. Bringing in textured textiles, rugs and floor cushions that invite relaxation and embodied presence can immediately elevate your sanctuary. Consider organic lighting sources like candles or beeswax lamps to create a warm, focused atmosphere.
Anchor the space with natural elements like live plants, crystals, wood carvings or accents that remind your masculine energy of nature’s primordial rhythms. Studies show that surrounding ourselves with biophilic natural motifs can reduce stress, improve emotional balance, enhance creativity and tap into our innate human affinity for the natural world.

Arrange furnishings and objects with intention, considering how their placement will facilitate your movements, practices and ceremonies within this sacred domain. Seating, lighting and energy flow should seamlessly accommodate both dynamic expression and profound stillness.
Establish rituals and practices. Sacred space invites rituals and ceremony—an opportunity to engage in practices that nourish the mind, body and spirit. Whether it’s meditation, journaling, prayer or movement, establish rituals that resonate with you and help you tap into the deeper parts of you. Maybe you light incense and read a passage in a morning reflection book. Perhaps you sit in a comfy spot and listen to music that stirs your soul. Ask yourself, “What does my soul need right now?” There’s no right way to do this—let your intuition be your guide.

Cultivate presence and stillness. Think of this space of yours as an invitation to slow down, breathe and be fully present with yourself. Encourage your busy mind to let go of distractions and external pressures, and simply be with whatever arises in the present moment. Over time, the very act of entering your sacred space will have you drop down into a space of conscious contemplation and awareness.

Remember that honoring the space is honoring the self. Your sacred space is a safe domain where you can shed the exhausting masks, roles and ego armor that sap your daily vitality. We all thrive with some form of sanctuary, a home within the storm of existence. Honor this as a refuge where every dimension of your selfhood is granted unconditional belonging—and allow the space to honor and call forth the fullest expression of who you are.

Deb Beroset (AKA Moxie) is the founder of It’s Time for Moxie, a personal growth company supporting people in unleashing their authentic selves and living true to what matters most. Her new mini workshop "Soulful Spaces: 6 Ways to Make Your Home Your Sanctuary" is now open for registration -- all are welcome! Learn more at ItsTimeforMoxie.com. See ad, page 8.