Are you seeking a life partner? If so, I encourage you to examine yourself and to fall in love with you first. Looking first at you, do you possess the qualities you desire in a loved one? Are you clear on the type of person you are looking for, have you made a list and do you pass your test? Think about how you would like to be treated and what sort of values you’d like to share. What kinds of behaviors won’t you accept?

Along with making a list, consider the fun exercise of creating a treasure map of images, words and phrases depicting your vision of the relationship you would like to draw to you. (You may also do this for a current relationship). Focusing again on yourself foremost, how would you like to show up for yourself and then for your partner? Consider how you plan to take care of and remain true to yourself. Perhaps you would you like to share and express yourself opening and freely with honesty and fearlessness. How will you relate to each other? Other questions to ask yourself might be what sort of physical space would you like to share? What is your home like? Do you enjoy trips together? What kind— road trips, trips abroad? What sorts of foods do you enjoy? Food is a big deal; if you’re vegetarian and your partner is a meat-eater, this could be hard to juggle and navigate. Hang your vision map up where you’ll see if often and see what happens!

 Another exercise to consider – Write a love letter to yourself

Dear Holly,
I really enjoy spending time with you. I can’t wait to get up and spend the day with you. It’s a pleasure to take care of you. Thanks for being mindful of what we eat and helping me to feel our best... I love what we’re doing to grow and have fun—the art classes on Saturdays—and I really love letting loose with you at our improv group!! What a great idea to stir the creative juices this year in these new ways!

Next, log on to NaturalAwakeningsSingles.com, the newly launched dating site for meeting like-minded souls both near and far.

Speaking of self-love, have you treated yourself to a massage lately? Tightness and tension in the body causes stress, and we all know what stress can do to us. Therapeutic massage and bodywork are not just ways to enjoy an hour of selfindulgence. Rather, they are established ways to release tension and keep our bodies balanced. Why not try a new style of massage this month? Remember the Golden Rule this month: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And try my Valentine’s Day twist: Treat yourself as the beloved you are!