How We Get Our Groove Back
Aug 31, 2024 12:00PM ● By Deb Beroset
There are times in life when, damn, we just don’t feel sparkly at all. Maybe our light’s been dimming for a while, and here comes that moment we catch a glimpse of our soul in the mirror and she gives us some serious side eye like, “What are you doing? Where did the real YOU go?”
Tend to your energy like the precious thing it is.
Tune into your soul.
And that’s just the beginning.
Don’t stop with the small stuff—we want to go after the big joys, too. That’s where things really get good. I suggest you find yourself a tribe of kindred spirits. Create a vision that sets your heart on fire. Fall in love with your life and tend to it like the awesome adventure and gift it is.
Deb Beroset is the founder of Moxie, where she empowers women to embrace their true selves and live life authentically. Registration is now open for the Soul Care Masterclass, a five-week online program designed to feed your spark, fan your flames and have you be an artist of life—in love with your life. Connect at [email protected] or ItsTimeForMoxie.com. See ad, page 14.
Other times, it’s not so much a slow fade as a sudden, shocking life quake. An unanticipated Big Change—a loss, a setback, a diagnosis, a divorce—can leave us feeling like that spark we used to have has run away from home. Maybe for good.
Not so, mon amie! Your wild spirit needs love and beauty to feed your spark, fan your flames and have you back in that glorious groove. Rediscovering your groove is about remembering who you are and what makes you feel alive.
You’ve been through some things. You feel tired, worn out and maybe even a little resentful of the demands on your time. Sound familiar?
Take a good, hard look at where your energy is going. Are you giving too much to things that don’t really matter? Are you saying yes when you should be saying no? Start cutting out the energy drains—those things that suck the life out of you without giving anything back.
But don’t stop there. You’ve got to fill that tank back up. Find those things that bring you joy, the things that make you feel like you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Whether it’s going for a walk at sunset, making art or laughing with a friend who thinks you’re da bomb diggity, give yourself experiences that uplift you and your spirit.
Getting your groove back goes beyond feeling uplifted—it’s about feeling more connected to yourself, to that deep, wise part of you that knows what you really need. It’s about tuning into your soul and listening to what it’s trying to tell you.
This might take some practice, especially if you’ve been ignoring that inner voice for a while. But the more you listen, the clearer it gets. Set aside some time each day to just be with yourself—no distractions, no to-do lists, just you and your thoughts. Ask yourself, “What is my soul asking for? What’s calling to me at this time in my life?”
And don’t be afraid to dream big. You’re never too old to go after what you want, and your soul knows what that is, even if you can’t quite make out the details yet. Trust it.
Treat yourself as the Guest of Honor in your own life.
One of the concepts that has proven to be life-altering for women is practicing self-love with our actions. And how we ease our way into that is by treating ourselves as the Guest of Honor in this life.
You know how we pay attention to all the details when we have someone special coming to visit? We think ahead: What would delight them? How can I make them feel loved and cared for? How do I want them to feel when they walk in?
So, shine that warm light of attention and intention on yourself. It’s time to lavish some of that thoughtful love-in-action on you. Make yourself something delicious for lunch, and serve it on that pretty plate you adore. Rearrange your medicine cabinet so it’s inviting and beautiful—for you. Buy the orchid for your desk. Play music and light candles and burn incense. Treat yourself to something that brings you pleasure.
Don’t stop with the small stuff—we want to go after the big joys, too. That’s where things really get good. I suggest you find yourself a tribe of kindred spirits. Create a vision that sets your heart on fire. Fall in love with your life and tend to it like the awesome adventure and gift it is.
Here’s to getting our groove back—and living life with all the passion, purpose and moxie we can muster.
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