If you’re like most people, you’ve felt it—that quiet, deep-down longing for people who really get you, who hold space for your messy bits as well as your shining moments. It’s a yearning that can surface at the strangest times—like when you’re in a crowded room or scrolling through social media. It’s that feeling that something is missing, and that something is real connection.

As much as our culture encourages independence and self-sufficiency, the truth is that we’re wired for connection. Humans have always thrived in tight-knit groups where we feel we belong. And here’s the kicker: research shows that our need for meaningful relationships isn’t just a feel-good extra. Studies reveal that a lack of connection can be as damaging as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, affecting our hearts, minds and immune systems. Today’s loneliness epidemic is a wake-up call, reminding us that the ache for belonging is a fundamental part of being human—and finding a soul tribe is one of the best ways to answer it.

Finding your soul tribe isn’t just about having a group of friends; it’s about finding the people who lift you up, keep you grounded, and make you feel like you truly belong. Imagine having people who love and appreciate the real you, who remind you of your worth when you’ve forgotten and help you find courage when you’re feeling small. They’re like your chosen family, reflecting back your best self.

And here’s the magic: having this kind of connection isn’t just a bonus. People with a soul tribe are often more resilient, healthier and, frankly, happier. They feel secure, knowing they’re not alone. When you have a tribe cheering you on, your fears seem a little less daunting, and your dreams feel more possible.

Life can be tough, and there are times when we feel broken or weary. But something beautiful happens when we’re surrounded by people who love us. Our people remind us of the parts of ourselves we might lose sight of in the daily grind. They see our potential, even on the days we feel we’ve got nothing left to give.

So, how do we find this elusive soul tribe? Here’s where it starts: by becoming more of who you are. When we show up as ourselves, we naturally attract others who resonate with that energy. You’ll be amazed at who finds their way to you when you’re living your truth. There may be people in your life already who could be part of your tribe. Say yes to the connections that feel right.

Finding your tribe is just the beginning. To truly have these connections become a source of strength, you’ve got to nurture them. Soul tribe relationships are like any other living thing—they need time, energy and love to thrive. And let’s face it, in our go-go-go culture, it’s easy to let friendships fall by the wayside. But if we want the richness of soul connection in our lives, we must be intentional about it.

One simple way to keep those bonds alive is to create regular time together. Maybe it’s a weekly check-in, a monthly gathering, or even a spontaneous weekend retreat. Even small rituals can create a lasting bond.

And remember, showing up for each other matters. Be there to celebrate the good stuff, and be there for the harder times, too. In a world that’s constantly pulling at our attention, simply showing up is one of the most powerful gifts we can give one another.

Finding a soul tribe isn’t a quick process; it’s a journey. Life has a way of connecting us with the right people when we’re ready for it, so trust the process. And when you’re in a period without your people, use that time to go inward, nurture yourself, and stay open.

Speaking of soul tribes, Moxiepalooza 2025—a three-day virtual retreat of soulful connection and inspiration—kicks off the new year from January 4 to 6. Designed to awaken creativity and ignite purpose, passion and joy, this event invites women to come together, connect and embrace their boldest selves. Learn more at ItsTimeForMoxie.com/moxiepalooza.